The Logic
of My Heart
What was a turbaned
boy doing in Mt. Washington Park in Maryland anyhow
on a
mountain ridge where my daughter who
was seven and I went to fly
a kite
and why should I fall in love with
him?
Under his turban his long hair was
twirled up into a bun and perhaps that reminded
me of my own foreignness
in this time and place but also it seemed to me
the it was destined that our
paths
would cross and if it was destined then it
was meant which means this
meeting was
a telos accomplishing itself which
means that all western science
falls
except quantum physics which does not
make enough sense to be either
true or false.
So far so good.
I saw him first with his little brother
by the swings and our eyes met and I smiled
and he smiled very faintly so
that one
would hardly notice as we walked by
on the way to the hillside where
it
was more or less open except for discreetly
placed very large trees which
might be
avoided and while Harbunchen and
his brother watched from a
distance I
ran which I was able to do in those
days and pulled the kite aloft
and let
out the string and was having a
wonderful time but then
remembered
that this was for my daughter.
Still so far so good.
So I said to her do you want to hold
the string and she said yes so I said be very
careful not to let go and she
nodded
and I repeated it for emphasis and she
nodded impatient that I would
explain
a simple thing a second time and I handed her
the string and she let
go.
Not still so good.
Harbunchen along with the little
brother he pulled along after him came up to us
and like old friends sharing a
loss we
all stared at the kite as it settled into
a tall oak.
I felt that I had know him before
perhaps in India some lives previously.
Why not?
An entanglement of photons from quasar
0957+51A,B separated by a galaxy
found each other light years
later
after a number of miles that is too
big for me to grasp even though I
have
been practicing with big numbers
from the time that Kayetta Sinks
and I
played played what is bigger than
zillions of zillions after we
tired of
roller skating in the basement and
playing show and tell in the forbidden
woods.
I have always managed with numbers like
“5” as in Harbunchen was about 5 feet
tall or “ll” as in
“Harbunchen was about eleven years old” or even “90”
as in “Harbunchen probably
weighed about 90 pounds” but numbers more
than zillions were so big and
dangerous that one had to tame them like lions
with the inescapable whips of
words
which demanded respect which was
the point of our game and why we
made
up names like quadramazillion
and dolorofillion and
manchikappillion
and even larger numbers than that
all of which as you can see were
based
on the root word “illion” which has
the precise meaning of “a really
big number” all by itself
So if those photons did it after
traveling quadramizillion miles in manchikappillion
years why not Harbunchen and I
after a
much more countable number of
times and places?
They wanted to know where the bathroom
was and my daughter too had to pee so
we went together to find the
needed
facilities and Harbunchen as we walked
slipped his hand into mine like
we
were father and son and perhaps we were
and my daughter took my other
hand to
protect her claim in the matter
leaving Harbunchen's brother with
only
his brother's hand which he took
as something familiar and
comforting
if not exciting and we ventured forth
as single and ancient entity
which
felt like coming home but when we found
the needed building we had to
split up
in obedience to society's conventions
as my daughter was now too big to
join
us in the “mens” room.
In the men's room Harbunchen's little
brother hurried to a stall and Harbunchen and
I went to the huge old porcelain
urinals standing against a wall arm in arm
in those innocent times as tall
as
Harbunchen and so wide you could not
possibly
miss and with a gentle maize of little cracks running through the
glistening white enamel much as
the
lines one finds in drying mud or very
old paintings and we watched each
other pee.
Perhaps it was because he was
uncircumcised or maybe he was just a bit
aroused
but for whatever reason he peed a
spray like when you turn the nozzle
of a hose away from the hard
single
stream in order to introduce a softness
that will not harm the flowers or
vegetables that you are watering.
We then heard noises of gas and
diarrhea from the stall and I asked
Harbunchen's
brother if he was all right and
he
whimpered that he was OK and Harbunchen
said his brother had been sick
but
when after a while he came out of the stall
he looked relieved and I realized
why
there was this urgency to get to the
bathroom or at least the reason
for
one of the urgencies.
We left the men's room and found my
daughter already anxiously waiting for us
and briefly we stood together
looking
and sky and at the kite hanging
in the oak.
It was time to separate as we could
find no excuse for continuing to be together and
could not claim relations from so
many
lives ago and even though I was
sad thinking I shall never see
him
again I also embraced the contradictory
proposition that this was the
first
step in the dorifillion mile journey toward
a re-encountering.
I wonder where Harbunchen is now and
how many illions of tears there be before
we meet again.
Either he is dead or he is alive
If he is dead he is not alive.
If he is alive he is not dead...
Unless he is in Schroedinger's
box.
So I have decided to keep him there.
I stand before that box.
He is both alive and dead.
Logic as we know it comes to an end as
does western civilization when we delve
deeply enough.
So far so good.
All that is left is to open the box.
But then opening the box seems
strangely like letting go of the string and
I have
after all learned something about
that.
This is the logic of my heart.
I could not handle less happiness than
this possibility of his being alive,
I could not endure more grief than
this possibility that he might be dead,
Therefore I must not open the box.
This syllogism is both sound and valid.
Unshakable.
I leave his two states entangled as he
and I are entangled though a galaxy might
separate us.
On a green hillside perhaps in another
time and space we will fly another kite and
I will look pleadingly into his eyes
that he should love me as so few do on
this foreign shore and he will
admire
the slender grace of my limbs and my
little brother will cling to me
and
Harbunchen's daughter who will look
like Kayetta will let loose of
the
kite string and we will all have to pee.